...from my perspective

Anniversaries

2011-10-12T14:43:00.001-04:00

Anniversaries are remembered for a variety of reasons, I suppose. Some cause us to celebrate, others serve to remind us of a failed business, relationships gone awry, unmet goals and other miseries. We much prefer the latter, more pleasant memories, but if we spend any time in reflection, some of those miseries serve us in ways that we have no way of comprehending at the time they occur.

In many ways we are never the same again when our paths cross with something traumatic but in the mundane, "normal" events of life; our tendency is to slip back into mediocrity and lean toward missing and not applying the lessons learned.

And so, it's good to reflect again...Oct. 12, 2001...on my way to work at the Blue Gate in Shipshewana...6:30a...big weekend...Grand Opening...running through my to-do list in my head...oncoming headlights...head-on...lights out and the next time I become cognizant of my surroundings I'm experiencing excruciating pain and breathing like a drowning man but Brenda is there...comfort. love. grace. I find I've been life-flighted to Parkview Hospital in Fort Wayne with a dissected carotid artery, fractured hip, punctured lung, lacerated liver and multiple cuts and abrasions.

After 13 days in the hospital I was released in time to attend my sister Marla's wedding for which I was incredibly thankful.

Recovery seemed slow and difficult over the next number of months and when our dark days turned darker with the loss of my job, friends and family provided much needed support for which we are forever grateful.

Recently I heard the statement "God doesn't consult your past to determine your future" which I think is true. The difficulty lies in whether WE will do the consulting and be defined by our experiences or use them for good. Now, a decade later we can look at 2001 as a turning point of sorts for us as a family. I think we love easier; forgive quicker and live better.

Reflection is good...grateful to Jesus and my loved ones.

Our 1990 Acura with the front end folded like an accordion. The first time Brenda saw it after the accident, she said she felt God was showing her that angels were inside holding the dash from coming back into me.

First painful attempt at getting out of bed.

Much better with Brenda, Cody (10) and Morgan (6) with me.

13 days later at my sister Marla's wedding. I still have that suit...wonder if it looks 10 years old? :)

2011-10-11T07:18:00.000-04:00

Those of you that know me well, know that I have a penchant for the warmth of the sun, especially when the days become shorter and the nights colder. Today, my heart is grateful for these days of October that are so perfectly warm and sunny. I'm finding that the walnuts are easier to pick up and the leaves, while they don't rake themselves, are more willing to move into piles when the sun is warm on my back. I recount the goodness of God in my life and the preciousness of life again as I approach the 10 year anniversary of my brush with death. The events of this past weekend...murder in Goshen, an on the job death in a friends business, the Occupy Wall Street protests...have turned me to the Psalms...11...But God hasn't moved to the mountains, his holy address hasn't changed. He's in charge, as always, his eyes taking everything in , his eyelids unblinking...

Keep us pure in thought, alert to Your purposes, alive to you, the only true God.

Mamma Magggie Gobran

2011-08-13T09:37:00.000-04:00

This year at the Leadership Summit, Mamma Maggie from Cairo, Egypt spoke to us about the plight of the discarded slum children of Cairo. She spoke with a humble, quiet eloquence that was absolutely riveting. Here are some notes from her talk. Learn more at www.stephensministry.com

Egypt, as a country has sent the greatest number of martyrs to heaven.
It's the moment you die to self that you find yourself.
When one has nothing, God becomes everything.
Regarding the children her organization serves: We help them have a better life, they help us have more love.

Silence your body to listen to your words; silence your words to listen to your thoughts; silence your thoughts to listen to your heartbeat; silence your heart to listen to your spirit; silence your spirit to listen to the Holy Spirit. In silence you leave many to be with the ONE.

Day 2 / Leadership Summit 2011

2011-08-13T07:55:00.034-04:00

Dr. Henry Cloud: The evil, the foolish, the wise

"This guy" conversation...Wherever you are God has called you to be a steward of a vision.

Are you going to allow "this guy" to thwart your vision?

What do I do when the TRUTH comes to me? Leaders must determine what reality is? What about leaders that are allergic to reality? Realize feedback is not necessarily pleasant.

Three types of people:

Wise: truth = change / Confrontation is appreciated / Talk! The challenge is to make sure they are a match for what you need. Give good feedback. Keep them challenged.

Fool: truth = adjust the truth / deny reality / shoot the messenger / respond with anger / deny ownership / hopelessness ensues / DO NOT CONFRONT A FOOL! STOP TALKING! Address the pattern of resultless conversations. Fools do not change when they escape the truth. They only change when they must camp out in the truth. Limit your exposure, be clear about the consequences, give them a choice and then follow through.

Evil: destruction is in their hearts - they want to inflict pain / Reject a divisive person after the second warning

John Dickson: Humilitus

Humility is common sense
Humility is beautiful
Greatness and humility are now one
Humility is generative. It is the place of change and growth.
Humility is persuasive. The person that you know has your best interest in mind is the most persuasive.
Humility is inspirational. The real power of effective leadership is the ability of a leader to inspire others to greatness.
When our great leaders are approachable, have time for us and take the time for us we are inspired.

Some of the most influential leaders don't have the "keys to the kingdom". (Think mid east changes)

We believe good hearted people quicker and to a greater extent.

Humility is a reflection of the deep structure of reality. At the center of everything is the cross...a symbol of great humility.

Patrick Lencioni: Getting Naked

Vulnerability seems to be counter culture but is a direct manifestation of humility. Vulnerability is powerful, attractive...be vulnerable whether you get rewarded or not.

Fears related to vulnerability -

The fear of rejection - enter the danger / speak the kind truth / vulnerability doesn't guarantee a pain free experience / people are desperate for someone to tell them the kind truth /

The fear of embarrassment - if those around you think you are editing yourself to protect your image they won't trust you / ask dumb questions/celebrate your mistakes / when we acknowledge our humanity we attract people - they want to be around us

The fear of feeling inferior - do the dirty work / let those in your charge see you doing the things you ask them to do / Think - Jesus washing his disciples feet / honor your clients work / SERVICE!!

Erwin McManus: Chasing Daylight

Ecclesiastes 1 -There is nothing new under the sun . Believing this has created an apathy that has plagued the church to this day.

Isaiah 43 ...behold I am doing a new thing. When you step into the presence of the creator of the universe everything becomes new...he reminds us that we can't put this new wine into these old wineskins.

Evil men do not wait for permission to create the future but unfortunately good people sit idly by waiting on God to create the perfect future.

Don't wait for someone else to create the better future when we have the character and heart of God in us

We need to become the cultivators of human talent.
Most of us die painfully tragically ordinary.
The church needs to be the nurturer of the human spirit.
What would happen if the world would looks at us as the epicenter of creativity?
We at our best are not in the slightest bit intimidating to God.
We need to reclaim the truth telling power of the gospel.
Whoever tells the best story will shape the culture.
Its not that hard to bring people to Jesus when you tell a story that places them in the same story as God.

Tell the truth from our podiums and churches and we will not have the capacity to hold all those that will come our way.

Day 1 / Leadership Summit 2011

2011-08-12T12:49:00.001-04:00

Day 1 of my annual-can't-miss Leadership event was exceptional as usual. Bill Hybels opened the day and Steven Furtick closed it out. Both of these men have influenced my life Bill for the past number of years and Steven more recently. Incredibly blessed to have opportunities like this. Following are some of my notes:

Bill Hybels: Have you had your leadership bell rung lately?

When leaders stop learning they should just stop leading.
When a leader gets better everyone wins.
Our success is directly tied to our ability to attract and retain fantastic people.
Are you naming and facing problems that exist in your organization? Courageously address the issues!
How long do you tolerate:

Bad attitudes (Willow Creek gives it 30 days)
Under performer (Willow Creek gives this 3 months)

Great people in our organizations are discouraged by challenging people
Leaders must understand that their role is to move the organization from here to there.
Challenged to make the next 5 years my best years.

Les Schlesinger: Action trumps everything

Vision casting must follow creating discontent with what is.

Believe in the future by creating it first.

Failure doesn't mean game over, it simply means step forward with what you have.

Make reality your friend.

Bring other people along. Be flexible with what you want and how to get it.

Dr. Brenda Salter-McNeil:

Sometimes it takes a catalytic event to take us from where we are to where we need to be.

Steven Furtick: Audacious Faith

2 Kings 3:9-20 - Dig some ditches! You can position yourself for success but only God can provide the rain! Let it rain!!

Life can beat the audacity right out of you.

We struggle with insecurity because we compare our "behind the scenes" with others highlight reels.

Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. (Hebrews 11:1 ESV)

The Hunt for the Easter Egg

2011-04-22T16:06:00.000-04:00

...perhaps this is the way it is every year and I simply have been oblivious to the obvious. Do I think there is something inherently wrong with an Easter egg hunt? No, of course not. When the kids were younger that's something we always did. If the weather permitted, we would hide them in the bushes and grass around the house and join the kid's in their quest to find them all. To add to the challenge there was candy hidden with the eggs to provide some additional incentive, as if they needed any.

No, it's not the little egg hunt at your house that's got me thinking...what sticks in my craw is the 25,000 eggs or the 30,000 eggs that churches are advertising that they're hiding and that kids should show up and find. Maybe this is the latest "get 'em in the door fad" but to me it sort of feels like an attempt at color-washing (pun intended) the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus. The bloody gore that indeed is Jesus hanging on the cross is far less palatable than a holy week filled with rabbits and chicks and eggs.

This blog is entitled ...from my perspective and there you have it, my perspective. Maybe I just need a nap.

So How Does One Build Trust? stephen covey

2011-03-22T21:04:00.000-04:00

1. Listen well. If you think I'm important enough to listen to me when I talk, then I'm going to think more highly of you.

2. Make and keep promises. Twenty-somethings have been let down by their parents' generation and are cynical. Counter that cycle by doing what you say you'll do.

3.Clarify expectations. It may not be anything more than poor communication that has you failing to trust someone else. Go the extra mile and explain in detail what you really hope will happen.

4. Kindnesses and courtesies. When was the last time you sent someone a nice thank you note? Do that and you say to them, "You are significant." In return, they will trust you more.

5. Be loyal to those not present. Talk behind my back and , if I find out, my trust will go down. Conversely, if you refrain from gossip and critical talk, you honor others.

6. Apologize. When you take the blame for something and apologize, my respect for you will increase. Apologies show that you've got your ego in check, that defensiveness doesn't control you.

7. Forgive. People make interpersonal mistakes all the time. How do you trust someone who doesn't forgive others when they make a mistake? To err is human, to forgive is divine.

8. Be honest. When someone is more known for their tap dancing than their honesty, you don't know where you stand or what version of the truth you'll get. Be a straight shooter and people will trust you more.

9. Show appreciation. Who doesn't like to be thanked? It boosts your sense of significance and you know that you've got value in another person's eyes.

10. Give and receive feedback. Giving feedback involves taking a risk. You could be wrong or your perceptions could be rejected. But feedback is something we all need. Give it well and you've given a gift, one that can build trust.

A Beautiful Mess

2011-03-16T06:57:00.000-04:00

When Christian believers gather in churches, everything that can go wrong sooner or later does. Outsiders, on observing this, conclude that there is nothing to the religion business except, perhaps, business - and dishonest business at that. Insiders see it differently. Just as a hospital collects the sick under one roof and labels them as such, the church collect sinners. Many of the people outside the hospital are every bit as sick as the ones inside, but their illnesses are either undiagnosed or disguised. It's similar with sinners outside the church.

So Christian churches are not, as a rule, model communities of good behavior. They are, rather, places where human misbehavior is brought out in the open, faced and dealt with. ~ Eugene Peterson

BOOST Retreat / The Gift of Crisis - Jay and Beth Shetler

2011-03-12T10:33:00.002-05:00

James 1:12-14

Times of crisis cause us to look deep, to evaluate the why's and how's of our life. It gives us opportunity to clarify mission, purpose and values.

What low priority area of life or business is stealing your time and energy?

A crisis tends to reveal our self-doubts, personality weaknesses and fears. If we would act without fear in this crisis, what would we do differently?

Isaiah 62:2

Crisis gives opportunity for genuine community. It is on the path of suffering that we learn best how to love and understand others who are suffering.

From my (Gene) experience, times of crisis grow us into persons that more closely resemble Jesus. And frankly, when we are able to see in "hindsight" what crisis has brought about, the good that has been created because of it...crisis when it comes again, while no more welcome than before; after all we don't seek pain and suffering, becomes a point of growth and expectation.

JESUS IS THE BLESSED REDEEMER!

BOOST - a christian business retreat

2011-03-11T20:23:00.003-05:00

Maintaining Trust - Terry Shue

-As our culture shifts and changes TRUST seems to be diminishing at a rapid pace.

-Trustworthiness gives us a distinct advantage over our competition.

"The ability to establish, extend and restore trust with all stakeholders - customers, business partners, investors, and co-workers-is the key leadership competency of the new global economy." Steve R. Covey

self Trust: Trust begins with me. If we are ever going to impact the community around us Trust must begin with us.

four core credibilities Trust is built upon:
Integrity: Congruence, Humility, Courage. Who taught you about integrity without actually using the word?
Intent: Genuine concern for others
Capabilities: talents attitudes skill knowledge style
Track Record

NOTHING is as profitable as a high level of trust.

Stick It Out!

2011-03-03T06:51:00.002-05:00

From Hebrews 10...Remember those early days after you first saw the light? Those were the hard times! Kicked around in public, targets of every kind of abuse-some days it was you, other days your friends. If some friends went to prison, you stuck by them. If some enemies broke in and seized your goods, you let them go with a smile, knowing they couldn't touch your real treasure. Nothing they did bothered you, nothing set you back. So don't throw it all away now. You were sure of yourselves then. It's still a sure thing! But you need to stick it out, staying with God's plan so you'll be there for the promised completion.

Old Pictures - New Memories

2011-02-27T17:56:00.000-05:00

Kaitlyn

Morgan, Courtney and Zach

Dennis and Cody

Lamar, Marla and Me at Lamar and Crystal's wedding

Do you ever wonder? What's the point of all these pictures? This afternoon Brenda retrieved a box of old photos from storage to begin the arduous task of sorting what must be thousands of pictures and placing them in albums. For anyone just starting out...trust me when I tell you that now would be a good time to place photos in an album, digital or otherwise. Better than waiting till you have boxes and boxes. Lots of fun spending the afternoon laughing and recalling with fond memories the people we've met and how we and our families have changed in the past 20 years. Without these pictures we would be left to what our memories can recall but with them we have many otherwise forgotten details. So if you're tempted, don't stop taking pictures. There are no regrets of having too many, just in not having enough.

Mourning - Private or Public?

2011-01-14T14:24:00.001-05:00

I just returned from an Amish funeral and have some thoughts that I'm processing...my siblings and I have had an ongoing conversation about what will transpire when our parents pass on. In the Amish tradition, after the sermon(s) at the funeral there is one final viewing of the deceased but as everyone files past the coffin, they proceed back to their seats instead of exiting. I have always told my siblings that when the time comes we will ask for privacy in the final moments with our parents instead of doing so publicly. Now as I observed my closest friend saying his final farewell to his Dad, I had to wonder if there isn't some real value in mourning in community. Privacy would seem much more comfortable; less of a spectacle but perhaps for those of us in the audience, there is some sense of raw emotional compassion that is evoked in these times of grief that draws us closer into community with the grieving. The reverse may be true for those mourning the loss of their loved one as well. I don't know, maybe it doesn't really matter one way or the other...I thought my mind was made up about this topic, now I'm not so sure...any thoughts from those with experience?

BEER AND MAYO

2011-01-11T21:21:00.000-05:00

Found this story on my laptop...stored there for the next time I needed to be reminded...maybe you need the reminder too ~

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 beers. A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.' The professor then produced two beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. 'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.. The sand is everything else---the small stuff. 'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18.. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand. One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented. The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.' The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of beers with a friend.

LIFE ISN'T ABOUT WAITING FOR THE STORM TO PASS... ...IT'S LEARNING HOW TO DANCE IN THE RAIN

a walk in the park

2010-11-28T23:21:00.011-05:00

On a recent Sunday morning when the wind was particularly cold and blustery and the recent friendliness of warm Indian summer sunshine had been replaced by a strong north wind that forced my hands deeper into my much too thin fall jacket; I walked with a cluttered mind down a gravel path at a local park. As I walked my mind and heart began clearing up a bit and I remembered that when my life in Christ was brand new and I was really a fish out of my water, I would find solace and reassurance and the Holy Spirit would find me...where I was walking this Sunday morning. And now this morning, as I started connecting with my surroundings, my eye found some of the most incredible visuals and I had a sense that I was to see beyond myself and my own "stuff" and see the trees despite the forest and so I tried and I think I did, I am...

Now as I'm posting this it seems that the life and death photo is a scene that has been oft repeated in my life. Something (effort, dream...) comes to fruition but then it dies or dramatically changes...it all seems dead...or perhaps it's when my "self" dies...then, upon closer inspection...there is life, there is green among the browns and life more abundantly than I first assumed.

Confidence

2010-11-03T06:37:00.000-04:00

I woke up early this morning, tried to go back to sleep but couldn't...so despite my grogginess, I began to think and hear and as often happens in the early morning, I seemed to hear God softly speaking to me...words of encouragement for you. He doesn't intend for you to be anxious about your future...we live in a frail, battered world where accidents happen and people get hurt...where what appears to be a left turn actually straightens our course...be confident in knowing that despite our best efforts sometimes it's not enough. But Jesus is. Enough. I'm asking Him to continue to guide your incredibly bright future...follow where He leads you.

Laura

2010-10-09T08:45:00.005-04:00

Just got word that one of my most favorite people ever is now in the presence of Jesus. Laura Garber was probably one of the most "saintly" people that I have ever known. Her kindness and ability to encourage were unmatched. But this morning her desire to be with her Savior has been fulfilled. Thank you, Laura for your encouraging words, your faithful example of Godliness and for loving and living well.

Clarity

2010-10-04T07:52:00.004-04:00

What is it about the mystery of God's presence that keeps me asking for more? Why does the unexplained happen and then remain unexplained? Is my heart open? Are my eyes seeing? Do you believe that the Spirit of God manifests himself physically? What if someone walked up to you and during your conversation, her hand began to shake uncontrollably and the Holy Spirit began to minister to you as she laid that hand on your chest as she prays over you? What would that mean to you or how would you react? Would you chalk it up to "weird" experience? I was tempted to but couldn't. I guess what I did was accept the experience as confirmation that recent decisions were indeed taking me in the right direction and that for sure, as the song by Geoff Moore so beautifully says, Jesus knows my name and he knows my every thought.

And then in one of my previous posts I mentioned a retreat that I was going on...now "post retreat" I have reflected many times on the experience of being with a group of men that I really didn't know and how the Spirit of God, I believe, used these men to minister to me at a time when uncertainty and questioning seemed to plague me. For the record, I am not accustomed to being in settings where prophetic words are spoken with such clarity and additionally, I can be a healthy/unhealthy skeptic...there were a number of things spoken over me but as I recall them, the one that most deeply affected me were the words "Father wants you to know He is well pleased with you". They were just a few words but these words were like a healing balm washing over me. I chose to accept those words and realized afresh that Jesus loves me (this I know?) Yes, I know again.

As I've recounted this experience, I've argued with myself and on one hand I want to say that my faith is rather simple...that I'm relying on an emotional response and on the other hand, I would say that Jesus said unless our faith is like that of a child we will not enter the kingdom of heaven. I know this doesn't undermine the importance of discernment and wisdom, (which is where I am most comfortable), but there seems to be a time for embracing my faith with the simplicity of a child and saying yes to the supernatural acts of God; saying yes to allowing Jesus to fill every nook and cranny of my being. Today, I'm saying yes more frequently and with greater urgency.

Summer 2010 MCCh Baptism Photos

2010-08-24T12:19:00.001-04:00

Baptism 2010-08-22

Wrestling

2010-08-20T13:34:00.002-04:00

This is the first week of a major change in direction for me. After a week in Florida that seemed to aid the transition I find that I have much to be grateful for...I love that for the first time in 4 years I am in an office with windows...that a quick stroll to the mailbox can be combined with pulling a few weeds in a flower bed...that my dog Buster is always happy to be in my company and that I haven't shaved in what is approaching two weeks.

It seems I'm forever wrestling with how the future looks and finding my place in it. But the wrestling is a process that is growing and stretching me.

Tonight I join a group of guys from the area at the Amigo Centre for a mini retreat. I have never been interested in a beat-my-chest, shoot some guns, let's prove that we are real men powwow, so I seriously hope that this is nothing like that...my attendance is a direct result of an invite from a person that has serious credibility with me. So, I go wanting to hear God and yes, perhaps it's another step in the process. Regardless, I want to be found worthy of His calling, whatever shape or form that turns out to be.

Leadership Summit - T.D. Jakes

2010-08-06T17:20:00.002-04:00

Combustible Passion ~

You cannot impassion other people when you yourself aren't passionate.

They come to follow Jesus and they get stuck with you.

People follow people who move. They need to see that the vision is bigger than they are.

Self-assessment is critical to the success of great leadership.

If you always surround yourself with people just like you they will compete with you but they won't complete you. It is critical that you surround yourself with people that are different than you.

All of this information doesn't mean much if you as a leader run out of gas. When my heart is overwhelmed and I'm tired and exhausted. I go the The Rock.

If you're going to lead people you have to allow them to see your wounds and to see who you really are.

Leadership Summit - Terri Kelly/Daniel Pink

2010-08-06T12:38:00.005-04:00

A long term view assumes that new hires agree with values and principles and practices of the company or organization. If that assumption is made, proper communication of the a fore mentioned core values must be communicated in a variety of ways.

Sponsorship/mentoring is an integral part of each persons success.

The leader is only a leader if there are people that want to follow them.

Leadership by influence rather than position or title.

Start with false assumptions and success will always be just out of reach.

If our human nature is to be active and engaged, what causes us to be passive and inert?

Humans are not machines or blobs.

AMP! Develop these three characteristics in your environment and give a non-monetary gift and motivation to those around you!

- AUTONOMY: of time; as a team; tasks and techniques
Self direction leads to engagement.

- MASTERY: feedback is critical to our success.

- PURPOSE: profit is a good motivator but it is becoming less effective than the purpose motive.

The single biggest motivator at work is progress.

Leadership Summit - Jeff Manion

2010-08-06T10:32:00.003-04:00

The Land Between ~

Numbers 11. We use the language of "for now" when we're in the land between. The land between is fertile soil...fertile for complaint. The land between is also fertile ground for his provision. What if he still provides? What if our gracious God says "keep your hands open, let me provide." What if the land between is

Cosmic treason - "God, we were better off without you".

God's reply to Moses - Is the Lords arm too short?

Discipline: inflicting pain for redemptive purposes.

The land between is fertile soil for Transformational Growth. It doesn't happen automatically. When you travel in the land between your heart is in danger. The wilderness is the best greenhouse for transformation but it is also the place where faith goes to die. The habits of the heart that we foster in this space-our responses and reactions-will determine whether the Land Between results in spiritual life or spiritual death.

Trust evicts complaints. They are incompatible roommates. The land between is where the Holy Spirit does some of his richest and deepest work.

Leadership Summit - Andy Stanley

2010-08-05T17:35:00.004-04:00

The Upside of Tension ~

Leaders learn how to leverage problems that never go away in such a way that they become a growth engine for the organization.

If problems keep resurfacing -

1. Identify the tensions.
2. Create terminology
3. Inform the core
4. Continually give value to both sides.
5. Don't weigh in to heavily based on your personal bias
6. Understand the upside of the opposite side and the downside of your side.
7. Don't allow strong personalities to win the day. We need passionate people who will champion their side but also mature people that understand the art.
8. Don't think in terms of balance but in terms of the rhythm of your organization.
Then have the confidence to make "the call."
If you'll identify and leverage the tensions they will actually become part of your story.

Leadership Summit - Adam Hamilton

2010-08-05T13:10:00.007-04:00

When Leaders Fall~

All of us are wired for companionship and sexual intimacy and both of these mixed with sin is a volatile combination.

Moment of the maybe...what would it be like? When sin is rationalized, mobilized...

If you keep talking about it, considering it or dwelling on it, eventually the maybe turns into a yes.

Resist The Temptation:
Remember who you are.
Recognize the consequences of your actions.
Rededicate yourself to God
Reveal your struggle to a trusted friend.
Remove yourself from the situation.

1Thess. 4:3-5 and 7

Leadership Summit - Craig Groeschle and Tony Dungy

2010-08-05T13:10:00.002-04:00

Tony Dungy~stubbornness is a virtue when you're right.

Life balance ultra-important.
Don't mistake hours for productivity.

Tony is championing mentoring and encouraging leaders to make themselves available. We have something to offer, it doesn't mean that we have all the answers it simply means that we are willing to speak into another persons life.

Leadership Summit - Jim Collins

2010-08-05T12:10:00.002-04:00

How the mighty fall ~
Good is the enemy of Great. It's a matter of conscience We must have great church leadership spread throughout every single corner of the world.

No one is immune...ANYONE can fall.

It is not success that leads to failure. Instead, what will is outrageous arrogance to neglect our life calling and to fail to pursue it as we did when we first discovered it. It is outrageous arrogance to think that because our intentions are good that our actions would necessarily be good.

The signature that separates level 5 leaders from level 4 leaders is HUMILITY and the will to do whatever it takes. Undisciplined pursuit of MORE is what brings the mighty down.

Unless we have all the key seats filled with fantastic people we must resist growth until we have them. Attempting to implement vision without this step equals failure.

Culture of denial ~ Are you a team that is on its way up or way down?

Greatness is a cumulative process.

Measure success by money you will always lose.

Core values are not open for compromise.

To Do:

1. Do your diagnostics. www.jimcollins.com
2. Count your blessings. Why? When you begin to count all the successes and good things in life that came your way with which you had nothing to do, HUMILITY is the result.
3. What is your questions to statements ratio and can you double them in the next year? Spend less time trying to be interesting and more time being interested.
4. How many key seats on your bus are filled and whats the plan to fill the empty seats.
5. Do your team diagnostics.
6. Complete an inventory of the brutal facts with your team.
7. Culture of discipline has nothing to do with what we do but what we are willing to stop doing.
8. Define results and show milestones
9. Double your reach to young people by changing your practices but not your core values.
10. Set some big hairy audacious goals.

Never capitulate, never give in.

Leadership Summit - Bill Hybels

2010-08-05T10:07:00.003-04:00

Staying here BREAKS the heart of God! Figure out what God wants to get done in this world and figure out what your role is. Then move from here to there. Take your people and your vision.

Fantastic people have great Character; Competence; Chemistry and Culture (value/style etc)...what kind of person flourishes on our team?

"I live for experiences like this" holy challenge of assembling developing inspiring a fantastic team of people is an incredible privilege.

Mile markers and celebrations: vision MUST be reinforced constantly. Celebrate every mile marker along the way. People stay on mission if they have a sense of hope that they will get there someday. Turn set backs into celebrations.

Whispers from God: John 10:27 when God speaks can you hear? Do you think God still speaks and will you do everything possible to hear him?

Don't quit; Step UP; Take a risk; Apologize now; make the tough decision; get help; stop running from God; slow down; show your heart; let others lead; feed your soul; bless the team; make the ask; do something more impactful; come clean; embody the vision; celebrate the victories; speak the truth; pay the price; count your blessings; end the secret; check your motives; set the pace; give God your best; get physically fit; serve your family; pray; humble yourself.

In Brief

2010-07-18T09:38:00.003-04:00

This morning I announced to the MCCh family that I have resigned from my position as Administrative Pastor effective Aug. 6. This was a most difficult conclusion to arrive at but as Brenda and I struggled to manage our relationship and the family business and a more recent business venture that she is involved in it became increasingly clear that major changes needed to occur.

I am incredibly grateful for the opportunities I’ve had in being part of the leadership team these last four years. To be able to sit with men that are seeking hard after God and His will has been very rewarding. Some of my most cherished memories included seeing many of you take steps forward in your relationship with Jesus and each other. I pray that we will all continue to be connected to the world around us, pressing in to bring Jesus to those in need.

I have learned much and my world has expanded a great deal as I've been pushed and prodded to continue to grow into the person God desires me to be. I'm grateful to Pastor Mel and the rest of the staff for the opportunity to serve alongside them. And I thank the MCCh family for your support and encouragement. Blessings.

Kenya Update

2010-06-10T16:28:00.000-04:00

Christmas 2009, the economy was dismal but you all stepped up in a big way and we had a Big Give Sunday where we raised money for specific projects. It is exciting and humbling to see what God can do through us. Recently we received this note from Agape School in Kenya the recipient of $12,000 of your generousity.

...on behalf of the entire Agape Dayspring School community I wish to thank you and your entire church for the donation of $12,000.00 which helped in changing the outlook of our school, as you can compare the photos attached before and after roofing exercise.

We have had a heavy rains in Kenya. It has never rained the way it did this time. Our building would have been destroyed by much water. Thank God that the donation came at the right time. All the money was used for the purpose intended.

God bless you.
Bishop Duncan Mbogo

Flowers from our gardens.

2010-05-31T22:08:00.000-04:00

Live In Me

2010-04-20T08:04:00.002-04:00

This is the video that introduced the sermon on Sunday, April 18, 2010. For sermon content go here

Good Friday 2010

2010-04-05T19:04:00.000-04:00

Good Friday 2010

Check out these pictures from Good Friday.

Communion Conundrum

2010-03-31T08:10:00.000-04:00

Today as I checked on the communion supplies, as so often happens, I ended doing more than just checking supplies. I took everything out of storage and made preparations for a volunteer that takes care of assembling the cups in the trays.

As I was doing so I was struck by how nonchalantly I placed the little metal crosses on top of each of the communion tray lids. When I paused to consider this, I became aware that perhaps this nonchalant attitude is somewhat representative of my thoughts or worse yet lack of thought that is regularly given to considering the extent to which Jesus suffered for me. This cross that represents life to me and anyone else who is a follower of Jesus, this same cross represents the cruel death of our Savior. His blood was shed for us. His blood for our redemption...Sorrow for my sin and the sin of my friends has sort of wrecked me the past 24 hours...I can't imagine what Jesus must have felt like hanging on the cross with the entire scope of human sin weighing him down.

Good Friday intro

2010-03-28T11:28:00.000-04:00

This is the video we showed on Sunday morning to introduce the Good Friday service happening this coming Friday, April 2nd at 7p.

On mission - in business III

2010-03-12T19:43:00.007-05:00

Tim Troyer - business coach / The Effective Coach - empowering your team for success

Tim is a business coach for individuals and companies around the world. In addition to his coaching life he also founded The Reckoning International.

Valuable take - aways:

Every arena of life is designed for God's glory
Jesus reached people where they were in an authentic honest manner
Work is part of our holy calling to bring glory to the Lord
God's principles work regardless of your position in life
What is empowerment? reversing powerlessness.
Where's the love and where's the power; LOVE NEVER FAILS. There is power in helping people reach their full potential, believe in people - see their potential, share your resources.

Know - Feel - Do
competency based development - knowledge, attitude and skills that shape the behaviors of successful people and businesses. There are things that people need to know, feel and do to be successful. Model leadership with empathy and compassion.

Coaching is not teaching, mentoring, advising or counseling. "Coaching is helping people to learn instead of teaching them." Sir John Whitmore

Adults learn on their own initiative, they learn more keenly and permanently.

Insight is more powerful than advice. Jesus modeled this powerfully with the coaching he did with his disciples. "Who do people say that I am?" "Who do you say that I am?" Use questions to stimulate answers.

G.R.O.W.
Goal -specific, attainable / What is the one thing I should be doing?
Reality - change your current reality to a better one
Options - what can you start doing right now?
Will - what will you do? Who will you be accountable to?

"If we are working with people and we don't have a positive impact in their lives - God is not a particularly happy camper"

"No executive has ever suffered because his subordinates were strong and effective" - Peter Drucker

Favorite quote: "Sometimes we act like Cinderella with amnesia...we dance with the Prince and then forget and regress back to scrubbing floors."

On mission - in business II

2010-03-12T13:02:00.008-05:00

Session 2 the Effective Leader - Inspired or Tired? by Bill Mullet founder and CEO of Provia Door.

Love this - love hearing from unlikely sources...I shouldn't be surprised but these retreats and the variety of speakers are powerful in part because we get to be resourced by people from all walks of life. Bill is a Beachy-Amish pastor in addition to being a local business leader. His passion for leadership resonated with us on many levels.

Philippians 4:8 ⁸Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. We as followers of Jesus are called to a higher standard as indicated by Pauls writing in Philippians.

Here are my take-aways:

No organizational movement, no need to lead. If you aren't going anywhere you don't need a leader.

Leadership is INFLUENCE. Influence is based on TRUST. Trust is based on CHARACTER, INTEGRITY, COMPETENCE, HUMILITY.

When all else fails please don't use the authority card. If you do you've pretty much lost the game. i.e. because I'm the boss; I'm your Dad etc...

An effective leader: Has a strong sense of purpose. Clear sense of calling. Knows what really fulfills them; is persistent; ask questions to help someone else answer their own questions. Possesses humility. Is progressive. Repents when necessary. Is a perpetual student. Loves his work. If you don't love your job...get off the bus. Has the ability to "color" and empower their people. Exhibits relational maturity; transparency. Is confident. Is a good follower. "One will never know how to be a great leader till he learns how to be a good follower!"

Loved this story: A young daughter was complaining about the difficulties of life to her mother and so the mother put three kettles of water on the stove, filling one with some carrots, another with eggs and yet another with some coffee.

After the water was brought to a boil; she put the carrots and eggs on a plate and strained the coffee into a cup. Then she asked her daughter to describe the effect that the water had on each item. Well, her daughter said, the carrots are mushy and soft, and the eggs are hard but the coffee..mmm it smells so good. Right, the mother said, now we have some choices...like the effect that the water had on the vegetables and eggs, do we also allow the water or difficulties of life to define us or do we, as the coffee defined what the water became, take our circumstances and define our environment to create a wonderful aroma?

Favorite quotes:
Howard Hendricks - "Most people don't think, they just rearrange their prejudices."

"If you have integrity, nothing else matters. If you don't have integrity, nothing else matters.

Bills book recommendations: Speed of Trust - Stephen R. Covey
Good to Great - Jim Collins

On mission - in business

2010-03-12T10:12:00.004-05:00

Brenda and I are at the beautiful little town of Walnut Creek, OH spending time with many friends from across the country at the BOOST retreat. This is an annual business retreat that we got involved with several years ago that moves around to several different communities in the midwest and provides a time for followers of Jesus who happen to be business people to get together and refocus, network and re-energize.

This year we have a number of different speakers presenting in their areas of expertise. First up this morning was Glenda Lehman Ervin, vp of marketing from Lehman's Hardware in Kidron, OH. Glenda brought us a wealth of experience and information in the area of marketing and communication. I will post a video shortly that will show you her entire presentation. Some take away's to ponder and act on:

Customers have choices – they want to be in charge
We compete for wallet share
Brand your product in such a way that you differentiate yourself from the competitor.
There are multi channels for marketing communication - use them. Glenda named this brick, flip, click. Brick being the brick and mortar store front, flip as in catalogs and click on the internet. Of course, depending on your particular business you may have other avenues or you may only use several of these. But all should be considered as potential ways to build relationships with your customers and friends. Speaking of the internet, it was so important for me to hear her confirming the proper use of social media like twitter, facebook and you tube. Positive word of mouth is the best source of advertising, the internet is word of mouth on turbo. Great, great insight!
Facebook is a free, immediate, international focus group
Use Google alerts to track comments about you or your services/products.
2/3rd of people on the internet use some form of social media...think FB, Twitter etc...

TESTIMONIALS!!! a potential customer needs an average of 6 testimonials about your product or service in order to click the "buy" button. Immediate take-away...get testimonials posted on your site.
Track everything. Measure the effectiveness of your marketing by tracking everything. Know how people find you. There are a variety of ways to accomplish this. One is to use Google alerts. Do a little research and you'll find other ways as well. The easiest form of tracking if you have verbal communication is to ask. Simple, but most of us don't do it.
Change happens very quickly - be prepared.

Glenda's recommended reading is The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell.

Fearless

2010-03-02T08:05:00.005-05:00

Recently I had a conversation with a friend regarding why cancer had given her a big scare last year and why her friend is in a reoccurring battle with the dreaded disease...questions like...if God is a good God...?? how do I manage the fear related to IT coming back...?? My words of encouragement like "God's purposes are at times secretive and unknown to us but his grace, love and mercy are ever present whether we feel it or not" were not cursory words said without thought or feeling but still seemed to be just words. I really don't have and didn't have any great answers but that conversation among others has caused me to do some very uncomfortable "fear" digging that is unearthing some of the why's and how's of my own fears.

One of the books I'm reading right now is Fearless by Max Lucado. He says "Fear will always knock on your door. Just don't invite it in for dinner. And for heaven's sake, don't offer it a bed for the night. What if faith not fear was our default reaction to the mole on our back; to the fear of going broke; being sued...? According to Jesus, this is possible. The one statement he made more than any other was "Don't be afraid." This past weekend New Spring Church showed this video of Zac and I'm posting it here for your and my encouragement.

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

Happy Valentine's Day

2010-02-14T07:52:00.003-05:00

Hallmark makes a killing on today, somebody said it's a plastic holiday...The origins of the day are debatable but the premise behind the day is not. Love generously, sacrificially, with our whole heart everyday. Showed this during the opening this morning...have a valentine laugh.

10 Choices

2010-01-11T23:09:00.003-05:00

Perry Noble, pastor at New Spring Church South Carolina writes the following blog post.

10 Choices a Leader Needs to Make About his Staff - January 6, 2010

#1 – Choose to believe the best about the people on your team rather than always assuming the worst about them.

#2 – Choose to trust them to make decisions that matter without having to run every minor detail by you for your approval.

#3 – Choose to believe that when they ask particular questions that they aren’t being disloyal but rather seeking clarification.

#4 – Choose to believe that they really do love the church and want to see it thrive.

#5 – Choose to lead through inspiration and revelation–NOT intimidation, humiliation, condemnation and manipulation.

#6 – Choose to listen to them before making a decision that will directly impact them.

#7 – Choose to value them as a human being and NOT just a person who can perform a task.

#8 – Choose to take a few extra minutes to coach them through the “why” of a particular decision so that they are equipped/empowered to make the decision on their own the next time.

#9 – Choose to allow them to present the solution to the problem they are telling you about. (A great leader will always have a solution to whatever problem they are bringing to your attention.)

#10 – Choose to point out all of the things they are doing well instead of just focusing on the areas they are messing up.

Family Christmas Pics

2010-01-02T22:54:00.000-05:00

Troyer Christmas 09

Bontrager Christmas 2009

Beatitudes of Reconciliation

2009-12-30T08:56:00.002-05:00

Blessed are those who are willing to enter into the process of being healed, for they will become healers.

Blessed are those who recognize their own inner violence, for they will come to know nonviolence.

Blessed are those who can forgive self, for they will become forgivers.

Blessed are those who are willing to let go of selfishness and self-centeredness, for they will become a healing presence.

Blessed are those who listen with compassion, for they will become compassionate.

Blessed are those who are willing to enter into conflict, for they will find transformation.

Blessed are those who know their interdependence with all of creation, for they will become unifiers.

Blessed are those who live a contemplative life stance, for they will find God in all things.

Blessed are those who strive to live these beatitudes, for they will be reconcilers.

-Sisters of St. Joseph of Concordia

Holiday Generosity

2009-12-29T11:04:00.004-05:00

I had a conversation with Naomi the other day:

...she was sitting at a local tire store recently getting some work done on her van. Sitting next to her was an old friend that she used to babysit for when his children were young. He now lives in Canada and they both just "happened" to be at the same place. As they reconnected, Naomi and her friend shared stories of their life as it is and the friend learned that her husband had been unemployed for many months and things were difficult at best. Soon the tire store rep came and told Naomi that not only did her van need the work done that she came in for but her tires were badly worn and needed to be replaced...but that they had some good used ones they would sell her instead of installing new ones. Naomi, clearly frustrated, said unfortunately, while she appreciated the gesture, she simply didn't have the money for tires...that's when her friend said, Naomi, I was sitting here before you got here and felt that God was asking me to stay, but my car was finished...so I had them flush my transmission though it didn't really need it yet...now I know why I was to stay. I believe God is asking me to pay for your tires and for the other work that is being done on your vehicle. Yes, I would like to do that, will you allow me to do so?

Gifts are sometimes difficult to accept, especially when you want to "do for yourself" but Naomi accepted, with gratefulness.

A chance meeting? Hardly. Generosity? Obedience? YES!

Note: the tire store also changed the oil for Naomi...no charge. Blessings.

Just Come Home

2009-12-29T07:24:00.002-05:00

Here's a video from New Spring Church in SC from their Christmas Eve service...powerful!

Christmas Opener: Just Come Home from NewSpring Production on Vimeo.

I Got Your Back

2009-12-22T07:43:00.004-05:00

Check out a really great post important to any setting where you work closely with other people. I know it's hard to get past the red monkey butts.

Big Give Sunday!

2009-12-21T15:03:00.003-05:00

Generosity by Command. Wow, waytocomethru MCCher's! Our Christmas Big Give offering exceeded our expectations. We're going to bring you a final number later this week. But a big, huge thanks for embracing the country of Kenya and particularly the Agape Christian School and The Water Project. Christmas is coming to Kenya ~

MCCh - Generosity by Command

2009-12-10T15:34:00.005-05:00

6 yr old artist Leah Miller, is excited about good, clean drinking water for the people of Kenya and is joining us in our quest to raise $10,ooo to dig a well and put a roof on the Agape Christian School. We're getting other stories of kids getting really focused on collecting change preparing for BIG GIVE Sunday on December 20. What an exciting time to consider the generosity of Jesus to us as we give to others. If you want to give before the 20th please visit firstgiving.com/mcch. Additional information can be found at maplecitychapel.org or at The Water Project.

Soul Purpose Reunion Concerts

2009-10-28T09:52:00.005-04:00

Hey everybody if you haven't heard already, after a 4 year hiatus, we're getting back together for a two night gig at LVD's concert hall at the Old Bag Factory in Goshen, In. It's gonna be a fun time, especially if you're there. If you don't have a clue what I'm talking about...we're a group of people that love music and have played together off and on over the past 13 years doing a wide repertoire of music that you'll love. LVD's is charging $10 per tickets plus we hope to restock a local food pantry, so bring a non-perishable food item. Additionally, the tradition at LVD's is that there is a finger food potluck at intermission, so be advised and eat well. Tickets: 574.825.7785

2009 Leadership Summit notes:

2009-08-11T22:10:00.002-04:00

Session 7 – Chip and Dan Heath ~ To bring about change, one must appeal to the emotions. Big problem, small solution. In our quest for success, failure is a necessity. Is it a people problem or a situation problem? Bono is up next, then Tony Blair. It's an amazing day.

Session 5 – Dave Gibbons, executive coach; pastor: Our pain and suffering are our connection to humanity. Walk slowly, see the people. Failure is success. Our weaknesses guide us. Relationships trump vision. Best discipleship happens in life on life.... Hang out with people unlike myself. Read authors I disagree with. Understand that obedience is more important than passion

Session 2. Gary Hamel - Atheism has quadrupled since 1990. We should feel grateful that so many people are no longer pretending to be Christian. Church needs to be the most vibrant, adaptable, flexible institution in the world.

The kindest form of management is the truth but in the church world we tend to twist that into avoidance.

1st session Leadership Summit - Bill Hybels: The old “normal” may never return. Rough patches force new levels of courage and commitment. Leaders know that these type of conditions draw out of us elements of leadership that otherwise may remain hidden. Nobody is coming to church for a mild dose of God. All killer no filler! People will still give to a white hot vision. Are we having honest conversation?

The View From Conservative Mennonite Conference

2009-07-28T08:16:00.004-04:00

For the second time in as many years I produced the main stage sessions at annual conference. I didn't take as many pictures as I would have liked but this gives you some idea of what happens.

Summer = Family

2009-07-09T16:38:00.003-04:00

Hey all Daudy and Mommi Miller peeps...Announcing the Elmer T. Miller family reunion at our house on Friday, August 14 starting at 6pm and ending when ya'll go home. We will provide the hot dish and each family bring a salad AND dessert. (If someone else has an idea on how to keep the amount of desserts and salads balanced, let me know but for now we'll go with this.) I am going to try to gather old photos between now and then and scan them for a nifty slide show that should be quite entertaining. I need lots of submissions from all of you, so send them to me at gbtroyer@comcast.net or let me know that you have some and I'll come get them. All photos will be returned after scanning. I doubt that any of the Amish relative will see this (who knows? they might have e-mail accounts and go to the library or the neighbors to check it...) regardless, if it comes up, yes, they can drive their horse and buggies to our house. We need the fertilizer...

See ya then!

Artsy Amish

2009-06-23T23:26:00.000-04:00

Earlier this year I stopped in at Uncle Alvin and Aunt Mary's for no reason other than to say hello. Per the usual I ended up staying for longer than I intended. I don't see some of my relatives nearly enough and so when I take the time to reconnect. I reconnect. Interestingly enough, my Amish heritage is filled with "artsy" individuals. Alvin and Mary have always been into art (though they just think it's what they do, nothing special, chust us...you know), now in retirement and in their 80's, Mary is a quilter and Alvin paints. Mary, Aunt Katie and Cousin Jewel all at one time or another practiced the art medium of tinsel painting. A picture of one of my favorites is shown is this collage. Aunt Katie painted this particular one. The other pieces are paintings Alvin created. He typically paints on a small scale primarily on saw blades and hand saws. After my initial visit I commissioned Alvin to paint whatever he chose on a larger canvas and though intimidated by the size of the canvas, he painted the scene pictured above. Obviously, I was very happy with what he did. Additionally, I started my own mini collection of his round saw blades. He has many for sale at very reasonable prices. The farmer or wannabe farmer in your life would treasure one of his originals. Contact me if interested.

Best Student

2009-06-23T21:56:00.000-04:00

Okay yes, I'm a really proud Dad. After hoping that she would just make it through school...(Morgan used to be way more social than studious) she is now into engaging her mind and doing amazingly well. As the picture indicates she was named the female best all around student in her 8th grade class!

Less Clutter, Less Noise #2

2009-06-02T11:12:00.001-04:00

Years ago Brenda and I bought a burgundy, Chrysler, Town and Country van. Up until that time we hadn't noticed that there were other vans of same make, model and color on the road but after making the purchase and feeling like we had a great van that was perhaps "special" we began to notice that there were many other vans just like it on the road. Okay, so our van wasn't that special after all...the point is that once we had a "felt need", which in this case was less need than awareness, we began to notice and tune into the information that our brains said we needed.

Kem Meyer, author of Less Clutter, Less Noise, says she experienced the same thing the day they decided that their daughters needed a kitten. Suddenly, she saw signs for Free Kittens, Kittens for Adoption etc...everywhere, she even began noticing stray cats. What made the difference from the day before? On that day, she "needed" a kitten for her kids.

The fact is people's needs drive what people pay attention to. People usually only notice what will benefit them in some way. That's the definition of a felt need - anything people consciously lack, desire or need help with (time and money management, relationships, stress, pain, etc.). Connect with a felt need, and you will connect with an audience. On the other hand, if you share information without wrapping it around a felt-need, it is almost impossible to make a connection. Remember, it's easy for people to miss what they're not looking for.

It's a Fricken' Elephant

2009-05-13T21:46:00.009-04:00

Just started reading the book Less Clutter. Less Noise. and I think I may be posting quite a few excerpts if the rest of the book strikes me like the first couple pages did. Kem Meyer, Communications Director at Granger Community Church wrote this book for anyone involved in communications but especially to those in the church world. That's where I find myself, in the church world, trying to get the word out and struggling at times to know how to proceed.

In reality it's not what you say; it's what people hear.....

I heard a story about a grandpa helping his four-year-0ld grandson learn to read. The boy pointed to a picture in a zoo book and said, "Look, Grandpa! It's a frickin' elephant." The grandpa took a deep breath and asked, "What did you call it?"

His grandson repeated himself.

"It's a frickin' elephant, Grandpa! It says so on the picture!"

And, so it did. When the grandpa looked down at the picture, it read,

"A F R I C A N Elephant."

It's not what you say; it's what people hear."

Promenade

2009-05-13T08:18:00.003-04:00

For those of you that know my family, I'm posting pictures of Cody and his friends from prom a few weeks ago. In case you wonder who the young lady is with him, her name is Abigail Hofsommer. You can view the pics here.

Susan Boyle - Britains Got Talent 2009 Episode 1 - Saturday 11th April

2009-04-19T22:54:00.001-04:00

The Arts

2009-04-07T10:15:00.002-04:00

I am of the opinion that art itself is never to be worshiped but that art can be an avenue through which Jesus can be worshiped.

When we gathered a group of 13 guys and recreated the da Vinci painting of the Last Supper as a still life on Palm Sunday it was one of those moments for me that gave me pause, it recreated a holy moment in the story of Jesus, giving me a sense of "being there".

When local artist Elizabeth Maddocks, offered to display her original black and white oil painting of the crucifixion, I was drawn in as I saw her interpretation of Christs suffering.

This coming Easter Sunday, the original dramatic production called Visions of Grace will be presented as we celebrate Jesus resurrected. This will again give opportunity for the gift of the arts to be used of the Holy Spirit to draw us in, to communicate with us, to help us "see clearly" the gift of salvation. I'm praying that all who come to be part of our gathering will experience Jesus with fresh new perspective.

Mixed Review

2009-03-13T20:38:00.002-04:00

I yi, yi, Gordon is seriously old but he's still got it. Sorta. Sometimes it's best to remember the music as you hear it on vinyl or otherwise. Gave me the itch to have a band and do some of his music. Thanks to Elva Miller, Gary and Anna Miller and Anna and Frank Herbes for joining me and enjoying a night of great old music at the Morris in South Bend.

Gordon Lightfoot anyone??

2009-03-06T09:26:00.003-05:00

Gordon Lightfoot is coming to the Morris. Just so happens that Brenda and I have a bit of a gap in our musical preferences. She says I can go, but probably without her. So, is anyone out there interested in going to the concert this coming Thursday? If so, let me know.

He Is Here

2009-03-01T06:55:00.003-05:00

This morning we continued the sermon series in the book of Daniel with Chapter 6 and the account of Daniel continuing to pray at the window of his residence. This despite the sure trip into the lions den. But instead of retreating to an out of the way location like say his closet, he continued as was his tradition, to pray at his window.

Just as Daniel likely felt the breath of the lion's after he was tossed their way, we too may feel the breath of the economic beast that threatens to devour us. BUT our hope is in Almighty God, who provides in our weakness and protects when we're threatened. We segued from the sermon to worship via the following video...may you be encouraged that despite your circumstances, HE IS HERE for you, just as He was for Daniel.

Responsibility

2009-03-01T06:43:00.001-05:00

The following is a short excerpt from Mark Walz' new book "Lasting Impressions". I can't say I'm at the 'responsibility to" ideal yet but I'm committed to getting there. See more here becausepeoplematter.com

The Burden of “Responsibility For”

I’ve always cared about the journeys of the people I lead. As a youth pastor, I was concerned about “my” students learning, maturing and owning their faith. When I implemented a process by which adults could find and engage in ministry roles best suited to their wiring, I didn’t rest easily until everyone had made those connections. I cared about the job performance and personal lives of my team during the few years I spent in retail management. In early 2000, when I joined Granger Community Church’s staff as pastor of connections, I carried this same sense of personal responsibility for our people to connect in meaningful relationships, take courageous steps toward Christ and develop into fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ.

I still care. I still pray. I still feel responsible. But not as I once did. And I’m really happy about that.

It’s not that I care less. I just don’t feel responsible for our people. I do, however, feel responsible to our people.

There’s a big difference.

When I felt responsible for every person, my failure or success depended on their steps in their journeys. When I felt responsible for our students, I considered their missteps to be my fault. I felt profound guilt when people didn’t line up with what I thought they should know and do.

The Freedom of “Responsibility To”

Being responsible to our people is quite different. And incredibly freeing.

When I’m responsible to people, I understand they have choices. When I’m responsible for people, I think I should decide for them.
When I’m responsible to people, I know they must figure out their next steps. When I’m responsible for people, I try to tell them what their next steps are.
When I’m responsible to people, I know they must bear the consequences of their own chosen actions. When I’m responsible for people, I assume the guilt – or worse, the shame – for them.
When I’m responsible to people, I share their journeys, offering encouragement and teaching. When I’m responsible for people, I try to direct their journeys, never allowing them to wrestle, mess up, or make a wrong turn.
When I’m responsible to people, I talk to God a lot on their behalf. When I’m responsible for people, I talk to people a lot on God’s behalf.

God is still God. He transforms the hearts and lives of men and women. We do have a God-given charge to lead our people well. But it is not a charge to control, coerce or manipulate people out of a misunderstood sense of responsibility. Rather, I do believe there is a mindset, a way of thinking, that helps us lead responsibly.

The Pres is in Town

2009-02-10T11:12:00.003-05:00

President Obama was in town yesterday to tout his stimulus package and conduct a town hall meeting. I'm sure you've already seen and read all about it but in case you didn't, here's a link that quotes Derald Bontrager from Jayco that you may find interesting. USA Today

This Kids Got Pipes

2009-02-10T08:13:00.001-05:00

Rest

2009-01-26T22:37:00.015-05:00

I'm in Florida for a few days of R and R with my good friend Allen. The weather is perfect...sunshine, mid to upper 70's. Once again I ask...just why do we live in Northern Indiana? Love it during the summer and can easily do without in the winter. But, that's where we are and occasional time off from the snow, helps. Enjoyed breakfast with Adin Miller, a pastor friend from Sarasota, Bethel Mennonite Church this morning. I enjoy connecting with people, asking questions, probing their minds...about life and the twists and turns it presents. Adin is a friend that kindly affords me the privilege to do that.

C'mon

2009-01-22T08:46:00.011-05:00

The following editorial was in the Elkhart Truth the other day and I found myself concurring with Mr. Tuttle's opinion. We have and are relying too much on our government to rescue our economy. Granted there are things the government can do to assist us in the stimulation of our current economic condition but ultimately it's just us, so let's get on with it.

BY SCOTT TUTTLE

In a Jan. 2 editorial The Elkhart Truth asked, "Where has Governor Daniels been while the local economy faltered?" -- chiding him for not predicting that Elkhart County's economy would be negatively affected by the poor economy. Since when is that his job and not ours? This slanted editorial went on to try to diminish the governor's announcement of securing more than $10 million dollars to help retrain RV workers by throwing in another jab, stating: "Unfortunately, the news followed by just a few hours the announcement of another plant closing in Elkhart County." As if the governor was just some incompetent loser who couldn't do anything right. Is that what you meant?

Listen, every community in the country could use more jobs right now. To imply that it is basically the governor's fault is very short-sighted. Indiana has a governor who has received national recognition for the good job he has done, despite extremely difficult economic conditions. We, the people of this state, rewarded him for doing a good job by overwhelmingly voting him to a second term. To me, your editorial is just the kind of journalism we don't need right now. I feel that someone needs to explain to The Truth that the governor is not the only one responsible for what goes on in our state. We have an Indiana General Assembly made up of 100 representatives and 50 senators who write bills and vote on the issues that govern our state. I, for one, think they are doing an admirable job, especially in light of the current economic situation. If the money is not there, it's not there. It doesn't do any good to complain that we need more.

If anything, trying economic times like these should remind us all of how over-dependent we have become on the government and tax monies to supplement our lives. I honestly don't believe that this is what our founding fathers had in mind when they fled the long arm of the king of England and revolted against his over-taxation and involvement in individuals' lives.

I would suggest that wisdom and logic dictate that we point the finger first at us for not diversifying our own industrial base and not sit here and whine about how we want more jobs and diversification. Come on -- do we really blame the governor (or others) for not doing it for us? Since when did Elkhart County become some helpless entity, standing in line and waiting for our government handout? I say we are better than that. And in terms of marketing our county, isn't that what organizations like the Economic Development Corp. of Elkhart County are all about?

Whining that other counties are winning contracts for new factories and jobs instead of doing everything we can as a county is not a winning solution or defensible argument. I say that it's "our" job to diversify the local industrial base, not anyone else's.

I think we should take responsibility for our situation and quit whining about what the government should be doing for us. That is just the kind of mindset that has led to generational dependence on government assistance and I really don't think it is becoming of the Elkhart County that I know and love.

Elkhart County has always been the home of entrepreneurialism and creative thinkers, not whiners who just want to get our piece of the handout pie. So here's an opposing view: If we don't like where we are in terms of economic development and diversification in Elkhart County, let's get out there and do something about it and quit waiting for the governor, the government or any other "big brother" to do it for us!

Scott Tuttle is president and owner of Livin' Lite Recreational Vehicles, Wakarusa, In

Inaugural Prayer

2009-01-20T20:42:00.012-05:00

Inauguration 09 is behind us and even though President Obama didn't get my vote. I am going to support him until he proves that I should do otherwise. I hope that this great country that God has placed me in will come together, pick ourselves up and pledge to move forward. With the grace of God, we can each affect positive change beginning with our personal relationships and with our community. Join me in lifting our government to the Father and particularly the Obama family.

I wasn't able to see much of the inauguration, but when I went looking for pictures of the event, these in addition to Rick Warrens prayer (see below) were incredibly powerful. The cordial transfer of power from one man to another was completed without violence or national catastrophe! What a great example to the rest of the world.

Rick Warren's Prayer

Almighty God, our Father:

Everything we see, and everything we can’t see, exists because of you alone.

It all comes from you, it all belongs to you, it all exists for your glory.

History is your story.

The Scripture tells us, “Hear, O Israel, the LORD is our God, the LORD is one.” And you are the compassionate and merciful one. And you are loving to everyone you have made.

Now today, we rejoice not only in America’s peaceful transfer of power for the 44th time, we celebrate a hinge point of history with the inauguration of our first African-American president of the United States.

We are so grateful to live in this land, a land of unequaled possibility, where a son of an African immigrant can rise to the highest level of our leadership. And we know today that Dr. King and a great cloud of witnesses are shouting in heaven.

Give to our new president, Barack Obama, the wisdom to lead us with humility, the courage to lead us with integrity, the compassion to lead us with generosity.

Bless and protect him, his family, Vice President Biden, the Cabinet, and every one of our freely elected leaders.

Help us, O God, to remember that we are Americans—united not by race or religion or blood, but to our commitment to freedom and justice for all.

When we focus on ourselves, when we fight each other, when we forget you—forgive us.

When we presume that our greatness and our prosperity is ours alone—forgive us.

When we fail to treat our fellow human beings and all the earth with the respect that they deserve—forgive us.

And as we face these difficult days ahead, may we have a new birth of clarity in our aims, responsibility in our actions, humility in our approaches, and civility in our attitudes—even when we differ.

Help us to share, to serve, and to seek the common good of all.

May all people of good will today join together to work for a more just, a more healthy, and a more prosperous nation and a peaceful planet.

And may we never forget that one day, all nations--and all people--will stand accountable before you.

We now commit our new president and his wife, Michelle, and his daughters, Malia and Sasha, into your loving care.

I humbly ask this in the name of the one who changed my life—Yeshua, 'Isa, Jesus [Spanish pronunciation], Jesus—who taught us to pray:

Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for Thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever.

Amen.

Holiday in Seattle

2009-01-06T22:51:00.011-05:00

This past week we spent New Years Eve through Sunday morning with Brenda's brother Jason's family and her parent's at Fort Worden National Park in Port Townsend, WA. Jason and Melana live in Everett, WA and after a wonderful New Years Eve party at Romeo and Sylvia's (Melana's parents) we made our way to Port Townsend via Deception Pass to spend the rest of the week at Fort Worden. We rented a 6 bedroom house, formerly the home of a military colonel and had a great time of reconnecting and relaxing. The week before we got there they had the worst snowstorm in 39 years but all was gone by the time we arrived except for some in the higher elevations. Enjoy the pics.

WHATEVER, indeed...

2008-12-29T07:50:00.012-05:00

This morning during the welcome/opening, I shared the following thoughts regarding the New Year. Unfortunately the video clip that accompanied this is not uploadable. In essence the message it relayed was that despite our attempts to follow through with resolutions to do this or that better or finally start, most of us fail in our attempt...so the challenge from the clip was to look outward and focus on the needs of others this next year instead of on my wants and needs. Monday morning correction...I was able to link it after all... It was entitled Whatever (click on link to view). i.e. whatever you (God) want to do, however you want to do it, I want to follow your lead. The very last guy said "whatever" as his last words in the clip and so as it concluded I had several people give dramatic examples of how we use the word with various nuances and how our understanding of the word and the attitude behind it changes depending on how it is said.

opening thoughts from this morning, Sunday, Dec. 28.

As we approach 2009, consider the opportunities that are before us; the opportunities that have presented themselves in 2008, the connections we’ve made, the souls that are kingdom-ready because of the work of Christ in them and look around you, in 2009 the material and spiritual needs of our community appear bigger than life…so lets assume some responsibility for re-presenting this christ that we claim as savior.

What is the attitude that we reflect toward others; toward using the gifts god has given us; toward jesus?

Whatever, indeed.

Matthew 25:40
"The King will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.'

Matthew 25:45
"He will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.'

1 Corinthians 10:31
So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.

Philippians 4:8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

God is far less concerned with what you can do and far more concerned with what he can do through you

Troyer Christmas

2008-12-27T23:26:00.000-05:00

We spent Christmas Day at Mom and Dad Troyer's eating pan after pan of Mom's cinnamon rolls (other great food too, but nothing beats the rolls). Cody set a record in 07 with eating 12 but only made it to 9 this year...we had a great time of playing games, opening presents and playing "dirty bingo." See the pictures here.

Elfs?

2008-12-03T14:21:00.004-05:00

One of our gifted MCCh techies with apparently too much time on his hands, created this video. Brace yourself; and Merry Christmas!

Bubble Creek Canyon

2008-12-03T12:58:00.002-05:00

Several weeks ago during the Sunday morning welcome, I read the Message version of John 3:16-18 This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life. God didn't go to all the trouble of sending his Son merely to point an accusing finger, telling the world how bad it was. He came to help, to put the world right again. Anyone who trusts in him is acquitted; anyone who refuses to trust him has long since been under the death sentence without knowing it. And why? Because of that person's failure to believe in the one-of-a-kind Son of God when introduced to him.

Then showed the following video to emphasize the point that we must continually guard against the notion that to seclude ourselves from those that are different than us or from, if you will, "the world" is somehow how God intended it to be. Rather, embrace our differences and take every opportunity to speak life in the name of Jesus.

Bubble Creek Canyon

Catalyst Conference

2008-11-20T10:52:00.014-05:00

Yes! I'm pumped to be attending CatalystOneDay at Granger Community Church. I've been a big Andy Stanley (North Point Community Church) fan for a number of years and he is not disappointing. I so connect with his communication style. Fact is if I am ever in a position to teach regularly, I am sure I would have a tall cafe table and chair onstage with me. Atmosphere aside, to emulate his contagious and engaging ability to honestly and authentically connect with his audience would be quite cool.

Craig Groeschel is the other speaker and I just finished his new book, IT. He leads lifechurch.tv a cutting edge church that has 13 venues including an online church. I was especially struck by his deep desire to communicate Jesus and the emphasis he placed on his sermon prep time being more associated with his own spiritual life and less about content. Not negating the need for solid content but realizing that the spirit of God's work in us must be and is the most important aspect of preparation.

Okay so what follows is some of my note taking.

Craig Groeschel - Busting Barriers with Mindset Changes

Ministry practices must be built around organizational size and type.
We must think differently about the culture of our church. Have we lead our people to be accountable for time? Have we lead our people to be generous?
Tons of activity. Minimal results. Life Church has narrowed their focus to 5 things. Worship; Student ministries; Kids; Small Groups; Mission Trips.
Strike activity...do less, do it better, affect more people positively.
Are we about our mission or about guarding peoples feelings?
We must hire for the future.
Tremendous people in the organization must surround the point person.
Develop a church culture that makes it easy for the wrong people to leave.
If we're confident and secure in our mission...that is an attractive element to those seeking a church home.
God often guides out of what he doesn't provide. Peter and beggar example.
Great leaders see opportunities when others see limitations.

Three assignments from Craig -
1) Find someone one or two steps ahead of you and learn how they think. Most want to learn what they do - not how they think.
2) Identify one wrong mindset and ask God to renew your mind with truth.
3) Identify one painful decision you've been avoiding and commit to make the decision no matter what the short-term pain.

Craig and Andy together

Quoted Hybels - "as a leader one of the best things you can bring is your energy." If I am working outside my giftedness then prayer and devotion doesn't help much. Working outside my giftedness a large percentage of the time is outside the will of God.

Refuse to do some things. hmm.

When should the church consider multi site?
God has really blessed and maxed your facility. You are missional . Strategic partnerships.
Missional impact is huge because of not duplicating staff.

Interesting note: Craig and Andy teach about 33 weekends thru 09.

Craig Groeschel - Creating Spiritual Momentum
What is my leadership dark side? I'm quite confident that there are multiple dark sides to my existence. One of them is that I like to control things, funny how Craig hit this head on in this talk. High control=low growth.

Take time off. Can't? You're full of pride and you're a poor leader for not having raised anyone up around you to lead.
Sermon prep does not equate spending time with God.
I believe that my church needs my leadership more than anything else that I can offer.
We will do anything short of sin, to bring people to Christ.
Craig spends 12 nights of the year away from his family. 12 only. No more.
5 o'clock news theory. = Craig getting his sermon together week of. moving with the current.
Andy 3 sermons out most of the time.

Andy - Don't be that Couch

In this talk Andy referenced an old couch that is purchased when a couple marries and because of sentimental reasons continues to be moved from house to house even though the springs poke you in the butt and the fabric is faded. What are we doing at MCCh that is an old couch and needs to be thrown out or in our case given to the youth group. (Sorry, inside joke. Step into the youth room and you'll know what I mean. There live the most ugly worn out, but loved couches in the world!)

Programming begins as an answer to a question, over time it becomes a part of the organizational culture and the answer becomes institutionalized.
If we institutionalize an answer, the day will come when it is no longer an answer.
We must be more committed to our mission than to our programming.
Refuse those things that are not life changing
If a program is not working, tweaking won't help.

It is our responsibility as leaders to teach people the need for change. LEAD!

The assumptions a team has held the longest or the most deeply are the likeliest to be its undoing. Some beliefs have come to appear so obvious that they are off limits for debate.

Face Up

2008-11-07T11:53:00.006-05:00

So, Joe kindly asks to borrow my camera (Canon Rebel) to capture some ultra - important images. I gladly agreed to his request. Alas, when it was returned the following images were all the thanks I received.

Inspiration

2008-10-31T09:46:00.003-04:00

In case you're wondering if I'm having a rush of inspiration...I've been blogging on the church web site www.maplecitychapel.org and am finally moving some of my entries over onto Blogger. So, no great inspiration...unfortunately.

Twenty Years Later

2008-10-31T09:24:00.000-04:00

September 10, 1988

Yesterday during staff meeting I noticed a photo being passed around the circle but didn't consider what it might be that everyone seemed to be snickering about. Finally it reached me and deja vu I was back to 1988. Pastor Gary's father was at our wedding and through some picture sorting that Gary and Anna were doing they came up with this one. Brenda and I don't think of ourselves as very old, more like more mature...uh huh...doesn't seem possible until we see our kid's (17 and 13). What a ride it has been...we didn't have a clue what we would encounter in our relationship and life experiences but 20 years ago, we started this on love and yeah love. The ensuing years have been challenging at times but we're better for it and are looking forward to the next 20.

Shut-Up Evangelism

2008-10-31T09:08:00.001-04:00

This morning in preparation for staff meeting I read an article that reminded me of an issue in my life that I'm really, really struggling with...namely slowing down, listening to the spoken and more importantly the unspoken...Jesus, our master modeler, dealt differently with every person he came into contact with. Whether it was the woman at the well, Nicodemus, Levi, Mary Magdalene, or the disciples, he listened and knew how to respond in a way that would affect their hearts. There were no pat answers, no formulas, no one-time offers. Jesus listened and taught us that the smallest element of any culture is an individual person. Each person is unique. A person's experiences, traumatic moments, family background, ethnic heritage, and church experience all make up how he or she interprets relationship and processes faith and belief.

Hugh Halter of www.missio.us, relates the story of how he would study at the local Eugene, Oregon Starbucks and struck up a fun, over-the-counter rapport with Jess. She had the normal Eugene look: black hair, black eyes, black clothes, and studs and chains hanging from various points on her face. Often Jess would take her break and come over to talk to him about life, religion or whatever. She was very open, loved life , already considered herself spiritually vibrant, was as nice as any Christian she knew, liked Jesus along with Buddha, Gandhi, the Dalai Lama, and Oprah. She had a strong and committed community of friends, enjoyed her daily routine, but had absolutely no interest in the church or becoming an evangelical Christian. Now that's a dilemma. It's one thing to lead someone to Christ who's trying to decide what faith to believe in; it's another thing to try to convince people to pick a religion when they already like all of them.

So how are we to respond to this type of person? (Which by the way, is the majority of people.)

Hugh says he stumbled onto an answer when one day he came into Starbucks and tried to joke with her, but could immediately tell something was wrong. She didn't make eye contact and it looked as though she might cry. he sat down and after about an hour, slipped her a note across the counter asking if everything was all right. She wrote back and had a fellow employee deliver her reply. "No, I'm not doing too hot today. My father and brother just died this week-suicide and heart attack. Sorry. I'm not my normal self." Hugh knew that if he tried to console her, it would really make it hard for her at work. So he left and went across the street to a florist ship. He bought two flowers and wrote her a note that said, "Sorry," and signed it, "From the Rev."

Several day went by, and he went back in for another cup of coffee. Before he got completely out of his car, He was literally mauled by Jess. She just hugged him and cried. After they took a half-hour break, she said, "thanks for listening."

Hmm...listening? Is that the key? I think it is. Listening is watching and sensitively responding to the unspoken and spoken needs of other in ways the demonstrate sincere interest.